Summer Heartbreak

Summer, for me, is the season of feeling that particular sense of the unreachable. It’s a feeling familiar to me anytime of year, across seasons in the quiet stillness of a grey day, in the fleetingness of golden daybreak, or at the brink of a dark purple dusk. But it shows up most intensely here…

Questions

Questionsalways seemto lead to another. Some kind of answer,only thenanother question.  I read a Mary Oliver poem and felt it addresseda love letter to my soul.“But there are days I wishthere was less in my head to examine,not to speak of the busy heart…” But what ifthe meanderings of mind-questions upon questions,what ifthere is joy in it all?  For Mary Oliver,and…

Notes on Forgiveness

I have long hesitated to write about forgiveness because of the difficulty to talk about forgiveness without simultaneously confronting an honest discussion about hatred- a subject that carries taboo and complexity, to say the least. But with polarizing messaging in our wider world that increasingly incapacitates constructive conversation and feeds the illusion of separation rather…

Quote and a Question: Knowledge & Wisdom

The difference between knowledge and wisdom has been differentiated time and again. We know the former to be an intellectual understanding of something, while the latter is an embodiment of understanding in our hearts and souls rather than just our heads that translates over and into how we live our lives. When our knowledge has…

The Compassionate Truth About Coping

When we’re working to release old habits that are not conducive to our greater well-being, an acknowledgement of the short-term functionality of our seemingly stuck and entrenched patterns of behaviours can be a good place for us to begin. Often, our unflattering or self-destructive tendencies have played a functional- though, unsustainable- role in our capacity to cope…

The Challenge of Letting Go: Anger as a Forgotten Ally

Having lived our lives as perfectly imperfect human beings, we likely carry past hurts- it is an inevitability that comes with our existence as relational beings. Unless you are a rare exception of a person that can see right into and through every nook and corner of your unconscious conditioning programmed through past experiences, then you probably…

Skillful Practice: Caring Communication

This week, I’m sharing some notes on skillful communication as a practice of caring for ourselves and others. Communicating effectively, whether with those near and dear to us or, well- otherwise, holds immense value given that our wiring to connect and rely on others for love and support, or even just cooperation, is a non-negotiable part…

The Paradox of Change

The turn of the calendar marking a new year brings about the question of change as we look around and hopefully also inward, considering how things are and how we’d like things to be different. With notions of resolutions and change at the forefront, we can breathe in some relief with the reminder that real change…

Quote and a few Questions: Holiday Edition

The Christmas season, like any holiday, is a time that brings both our fortunes and losses to the forefront. If we’re honest, it’s a season of joyful indulgence, rest, and connection, and also one of self-recrimination, exhaustion, and loneliness for those with fragmented relationships in the spotlight. With that can come the challenge of reconciling a mix of…

Notes on Acceptance

Generally speaking, until more recently, Western psychology has focused on cognition and behaviour, whereas Eastern psychology has placed a greater emphasis on working with inner emotional states. Thankfully, more and more, contemporary mental health approaches are putting it all together and recognizing the interdependence of thoughts, behaviours, and emotions without having to claim the importance…